Is He Done With Me.

Dear Ask 3 Guys,

Hi guys. I've been dating this guy for 5 years and it seems that he is losing interest in me or doesn't appreciate me anymore. Is it the beginning of the end?


--Leftovers
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Dear Leftovers,

Ronnie's Take:

It's very possible. Limited info on the situation.

What do you want out of the relationship at this point? I'll assume because of you asking that you want to stay in the relationship.

Be non-threatening, and act like it's your idea. You feel that you two have become stagnet and want to change up things and bring back the excitement. Ask him for ideas and then you give some ideas. Make it fun Good luck!

--Ronnie
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Victor's Take:

It could be.

Have you sat down and communicated your feelings to him, in a emotional stable state of mind? (no whining, complaining, crying, etc.)

If so, what were his answers and do they make sense? I think many women, in attempt to find hope where there is none, overanalyze what guys REALLY say.
Do you listen to what he really says?

People grow apart all of the time, and while in your mind this may seem like the end of the world, it never is. In my experience, I find when one door closes, five open. Not only does adversity make you stronger, but you see the world in a different way.

Sit him down and have the discussion. Don't get up until you have the answers and really listen, don't interpret or overanalyze.

Good luck to you..

--Victor
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Eddie's Take:

The freshness of a relationship can sometimes find itself lost after several years. This often happens in marriages-- espectially when we have kids. Try not to nag him about it, since that can actually make things work. Try to understand how much he has going on in life, and, most importantly, just continue to show him what you think he wants. Just please don't nag about it, because it has a counter affect on some guys. In marriage, the 5th year is a tough one. In life, we end up complacent in many things we do. Relationships are no different. If he is over you, then there's nothing you can do. If not, he may just need a little refresher to remind him of what he has.

--Eddie
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