He still talks to me in my sleep...

Dear Ask 3 Guys,

A friend of mine, who might I add was intimate with in my
teen years, committed suicide a little over a year ago. He had been diagnosed
bipolar a few days before hanging himself. The night that he hung himself, my
husband and I were riding around and passed by his house, and I said I wish
he was outside so we could stop and hang out with him for awhile. My husband
was also friends with him. We knew his parents didn't like people knocking on
the door after a certain time, so that's why we didn't get out and knock on the
door. We found out later that he hung himself at approximately the same time we were
passing by. The night after he killed himself, I woke up and saw him standing
in the corner of my bedroom. Since then I've had dreams about him. Sometimes
he's just there and doesn't say anything. Other times we have a conversation
on the phone, and sometimes he's there and we talk face to face. The funny
thing is that I'm not thinking about him throughout the day or when I'm going
to sleep. What is your take on all of this and the meaning?

Paranormal Pal
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Dear Paranormal Pal,

Victor's Take:

Clearly not a subject that I am an expert on, but I'm going to take a stab at it for you.

I'll bet there is something that you really wanted to tell him or something you were meaning to say to him for years but didn't. Maybe something that was unresolved between the two of you, like a specific problem or issue that you really wanted to discuss but never got the chance to.

You may not think of him during the day or before bed, but you would be amazed at the control that the subconscious mind has over the unconscious brain.

I don't have any idea of your religious beliefs; I have recently been questioning my own. But, if it was me and I had something to say, I would tell him. Take a ride to his grave (if possible) and get it off your chest.

I talk to my deceased father every now and then at his grave, and I walk away 90% of the time feeling a little better.

Also, you might want to invest a few bucks in a dream interpretation book.
There are some really good ones out there and you might find closure there as well.

Lastly, I'm sorry for the lost of your friend. Mental disease and illness take the lives of far too many people every year. For a modernized world, it is unacceptable.

I hope this helps.

--Victor

Eddie's Take

It is not uncommon for us to hold on to things like this. Closure is the main ingredient. Not having one last conversation with him is weighing entirely too heavy on your shoulders. I have never been visited by the departed, but I have had dreams of hanging out with a deceased friend. Sometimes, when we want to see something, we can. Are you a believer in paranormal activity? Honestly, I have never witnessed anything close to it; however, friends and family have shared their stories with me.

I did a bit of research on this; however, there are so many different answers, you may want to look into it. You can google a few things, such as "getting rid of ghosts" or "visits from the recently deceased". Most of the stories I read online tied this into dreams. Do the visits take place when you are sleeping? If so, it may just be a dream that seems very real.

The best thing that you can do is give him the closure that he may be looking for. Just talk to him... it is worth a shot.

--Eddie

Ronnie's Take:

Our brain and imagination are very powerful. I think, subconsciously, you felt a supposed connection because of the timing of his death and you passing his house. I don't completely rule out the supernatural, but I believe this mere coincidence that you have latched on to. Let it go. Try on your own first. If that fails, get professional help. It should fade away with time

--Ronnie