The Txt Gigolo

Dear Ask 3 Guys,

OK Guys, I know I just asked a question, but this is for a G/F. LOL! You know me, if it were for me I'd say so! Anyway, she started messaging a guy on myspace about three months ago. One month into it, they exchanged cell #'s. Now, at this point you would think they are talking on the phone, but nope. They text each other all the time, mostly about sex. The have text sex all day long. He sends her vid clips of porn and she comments back. This goes on all the time, back and forth. She asked him to call her and talk to her and he did for maybe two minutes and then said he had to go. They are now into their 2nd month like this, 3rd month communicating. She has asked him several times, "When am I going to meet you?" To which the reply is usually, "Soon" or "This weekend". It never happens. My G/F finally got bored of the text sex and told him so, "This text sex is getting quite boring. I don't think you really want to meet me." His reply was "LOL! Bye!"

She asked me what was his problem, I have no clue! Sooooo, here I am asking you guys and your brite, entertaining bloggers for an answer for her.

TTYL
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Dear TTYL,

Eddie's Take:

Bottom line... the guy has a girlfriend or wife. I would hope that she doesn't send him video clips of her, because all he is doing is showing his buddies. Come on... a single guy that gets sex messages for 2 months from a woman, yet doesn't want to meet her? Smells a bit fishy if you ask me. A normal guy would have jumped at the offer to meet, since the foreplay was pretty much already taken care of via text/video.

She needs to tell the guy to get a life, and, hopefully, he will end all communication. Now she is in a situation where he has her number, so he could continue to aggravate her. Hopefully, he will get the point. If not, the worst case is that she'll have to change her number.

--Eddie


Ronnie's Take:

Married (yes people lie about their status on myspace) I would say. I have seen many men who like to have some playful contacts. They talk about they would do this and that with the girl, yet when it turns to a meeting time, their comment to their wife or girlfriend comes out. It's always good to feel wanted still. I have cheated in the past and the fun part was the flirting and seeing it unfold. When I pulled the trigger, it was very nervous feeling. It became an ending. The trill is the movie's plot unfolding. Then it's over. I didn't have an interest in leaving-- just looking for the excitement. He just wants the excitement!!

--Ronnie


Victor's Take:

Another subject that I have familiarity with, although, in this instance, something seems amiss. There goes that intuition thing again...

Look, I have female friends that I have met on MySpace and Facebook that I email from time to time, even text from time to time. But, in my heart, I know that I will never meet some of them. It could be a distance factor, or some other non sinister reason. I'm single, so in texting or emailing these women I'm not crossing any lines or doing anything I'm not supposed to be doing. Now to this specific case:

Text sex for an entire 3 months straight and each time, he avoids the physical meeting or the voice to voice calls? I'll give you two
possibilities:

One, he is shy and this is way of living vicariously and acting out. This is absolutely possible. This shyness and social awkwardness would also account for his behavior of avoidance and reinforce in his mind that there is nothing wrong with this.

Two, and what I believe is the answer - he has a live in girlfriend or even worse, wife. What time are the texts coming? Let me guess - same times every day, probably when he is at work.

If she really is tired of it, cease communication and stop fulfilling his fantasies.

Find a new man to have text sex with; there are plenty of them out there.

Good luck!

--Victor